Leading and Love

The statement “Love is blind” means that a person in love is unable to see the faults of the one they love. You care not what they look like and their shortcomings are inconsequential.

This also means that love is a journey, because it takes some time to love somebody. And it is when you love them that their faults become immaterial. But we don’t fall helplessly in love. We move briskly toward love.

We have a lot of say in whom we choose to love and we normally choose who we love based on certain criteria. The criteria is unique to every individual. The moment a person fails to meet the criteria, the dissolution process is activated.

We also choose if we want to be loved. We submit to certain ways of thinking and we behave in a particular fashion. We can stop the love process by choosing to play up our faults.

Idea #1

We choose to love. But we depend on others to give us reasons to love them. In some marriages, “love” is something that eventually develops because both spouses choose to love the one they are with. Divorce becomes an option if there is resistance to the love being offered or there is no request for love.

Idea #2

Request love. You request love by choosing to love. You make yourself available for love by the way you carry yourself, the words you allow to flow from your mouth, and the thoughts you enable in your mind.

Quote #1

“We can only learn to love by loving.” – Iris Murdoch

Quote #2

"The only thing we never get enough of is love; and the only thing we never give enough of is love." -Henry Miller

Quote #3

"Love is an irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired." - Robert Frost

Challenge

Ask your spouse why they love you. Help them love you even more.

Affirmation

I am worthy of love.